Comments on: A Bit of Loneliness

By: Steph

Steph — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 20:31:43 +0000

Hey, Ive not been able to keep up as much as I was, what with broken computers and monitors etc. But reading this entry, it suggests a possible post-natal depression? Im sure its not and Im sure its nothing to worry about, but maybe suggest speaking to your healthcare person, just in case?
I know it can be a very lonely time but it does get easier. Forme it was like, all of a sudden, I could do it, ya know? Well, you dont know, but you will. You will suddenly realise one day that you did it and youre doing it.
Keep your chin up chicken )

By: Teff

Teff — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 15:31:28 +0000

Wow! As I read your entry I could not help but relate. Though, I’ve got a daughter who will be three this month and my youngest will be seven months tomorrow. But once you started to talk about loneliness, and the no control. Man. You marked me to a tee there. But recently, I’ve decided to get back into reading. My boyfriend (my daughters’ father) often lets me nap but for me that’s not much to have time to myself because really I’m sleeping and that don’t do much good on the note of needing some “me” time so – I’ve taken up reading. Over the past month I’ve read three novels already and started my fourth yesterday. It is relaxing, and really helps you clear your mind. But congratulations on your new baby =] Well, I am a little late on it but congrats!

By: v

Fri, 12 Sep 2008 13:46:28 +0000

whoa… i never thought how packing up the baby to visit friends would such a production. i’m not a mother but i feel for you. *hugs* Amber says it perfectly, it’s ok to have a messy house once in awhile.

By: amber

amber — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 14:20:56 +0000

I found it helpful to just push myself to pack all of those things and go out regardless, it may not turn out as joyful as it would have had we waited until everyone was in the mood, but the more I did it, the more everyone else wanted to do it. It’s ok to feel that way, it’s been two months, and the adjustment takes a lot longer than that, perhaps even the full first year of having someone who needs your constant attention before you may adjust to being able to cope with it, because it is a huge thing. Take a moment or two to let you do something for you, and not for the well being of the family. It’s ok to let the chores slip and have a messy house, she’s not going to remember whether the dishes were done right now, and the best therapy is remembering and identifying who you are, and how you’ve changed. Once you’ve figured that out, you’ll begin to feel better. The happier you are, the happier everyone else will be because it’ll broadcast in every action you take.